Good For Him

Opening:
The whole point of this is to get men and women talking about what is good in our relationships. So don’t split up! Single men and women and couples need to talk about this stuff. So here we go…

Digging Deeper:
Read Genesis 2:23-25
First, this is the most common trajectory for people- venture out, find a spouse, have kids. But, it’s not always the case. We will, however, focus on this trajectory. Discuss if necessary.

98% of men say they are visual. 25% of women say they are visual.
What do we mean by this?
Do you agree that men seem to be created as visual beings, and that this is even normal and good?
How has the visual tendency of men turned toward destructive and sinful things?
How can we turn this created norm toward good and glorifying things?

Let’s focus on the man-
Job 31:1 I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully upon a woman.

The break in the cup of men makes us long for visual arousal that can and often does lead to very harmful practices.
How can we make and live this kind of covenant? Share, discuss, debate.

Now the woman-
1 Timothy 2:9 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety…

Discuss/debate how we can put this into practice.
Do you agree that it is a good thing for wives to be visually stimulating for their husbands?
What about the encouragement to “take care of yourselves?”
Why does this seem to matter so much to men?
Can this be mutually edifying?

Closing:
Can we get back to the place where we can be naked and without shame?

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Genesis 2: 23-25
23 The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman,'
for she was taken out of man."

24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Job 31:1 I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully on a woman.

1 Timothy 2: 9 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety...